A.F. High School girls lament too many girls’ choice dances.
As President Obama and Mitt Romney just made an appeal to the undecided female voters at the debate this week, another female group is being asked to make the decisions this year: the girls at American Fork High School.
Instead of growin’ frantic waiting for suitors to come a-courtin’, they are asked to pick a date for the Sadie Hawkins’ dance on Saturday. And for the Preference dance in December. And for the Morp dance, two months later.
Yes, while the first and last dance of the year — Homecoming and Prom — are boys’ choice, the dance line-up in Cavemen country this year shapes up to have more girls’ choice than boys’. “Not a good deal,” says Heather, a frustrated student who writes for the school’s newspaper.
“It makes sense that there should be more boys’ choice dances than girls’ choice because, traditionally, boys are the ones to step up and ask girls out. So why the change this year?” she poignantly said.
Heather is right: last year, the dance line-up touted Homecoming, Preference, Winter Waltz, Sadie Hawkins and Prom — two girls’ choice and three boys’ choice — which seemed “fair and reasonable,” according to Heather.
To learn more about the impending crisis, she took time to ask a few boys and girls, and the responses are as polarized as the 2012 election.
“Girls never really get a chance to ask, so having the two were a great opportunity for them,” says Braydan, a junior. “But having more boys’ choice dances [keeps] to the tradition of boys taking the lead.”
But, according to Heather, girls tend to agree more with Breanne, a junior, who says money and stress are an issue. “I think it’s dumb because I don’t want to have the stress of asking to dances three times in a row,” she said. “Money is also an issue. Having the three dances close together worries me that I won’t have enough to cover the expenses.”
Heather agrees that stress plays more a factor in girls than boys, as girls worry more about what they will wear and eat, as well as the date, she said. Could this year’s intensive course in girl’s choice be the panacea to stressful planning? Luke, a sophomore, says he doesn’t mind being let off the hook.
“I think that it gives girls a better chance to ask who they want, and it gives boys a break.”
So no one wants to choose. In February, in an exclusive report, the Citizen highlighted a dating malaise at the school, where some said today’s boys are less interested in asking girls out than playing video games, and girls asserted that guys wanted to “hang out to avoid dating.”
Could Cavemen be more cavemen-like? To solve this undecided-dater problem, Heather says equality is key.
“Being a girl myself, I understand that while girls love being able to plan everything their way, they love the unexpected invitations and creative ways of being asked even more,” she said. “If you want to keep it fair, then maybe we should have an equal amount of boy’s choice and girl’s choice. But girls should not be responsible for the majority of the dances.”